We Weren’t Ready

After having been told I was infertile in my early 20s, I stayed on birth control as a precaution but didn’t think I could get pregnant. I was working happily in the restaurant industry when I found out I was pregnant. My husband and I weren’t ready to change our careers and where we lived, but we knew that was the only way we could possibly raise a child well. Although we were able to afford my abortion and had relatively easy access to a clinic, I did have to return to work the day after my surgery. I do still wonder what life would have been like if I could have talked openly with my boss rather than pretending to have had minor surgery to my stomach.

Years later, we became parents by choice, and we’re having a great time raising our daughter. I wouldn’t have been the same kind of mother if I’d had to give up a career I loved for my child. Instead, my abortion helped me figure out what I wanted out of my life long-term and gave me the freedom to get there. I own my own business and love being a mother. I don’t regret my abortion. I owe my life to it.